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Our daughter is most certainly a free soul, at the ripe old age of 5 she certainly knows her own mind and isn’t afraid to tell you. She finds joy in everything she does whether it be helping me with the washing or digging big holes in my garden. She is constantly singing to herself and likes to create beautiful things.
On the flip side she is the most contrary human I have ever met, unlike her brother who is eager to please and follows all the rules Lowenna will do anything just to be awkward and stir a reaction. If you ask her to put red sock on she’ll put on white. If you ask her to pass you your phone she’ll pass you your tea and she does it all with a smile. I wouldn’t say that she is a naughty child she just likes to test the boundaries, constantly!
That’s what I love about her, however raising a free soul is not any easy task. How do you maintain some form of order and discipline whilst also giving her the freedom she needs to express herself? I’m not going to lie sometimes she drives me to the point of insanity and I have to walk away.
I think that feeling is heightened because we never had this with our first child; he was just so good, all the time and still is to this day. If you ask him to do something he just does it, no questions, no variations and no arguing. I’m certain he will follow all the rules of life. He’ll go to university, he’ll meet a girl, they will get married, settle down and have 2.5 children and possibly even the golden retriever. All the while his sister will be building a mud hut with her hands in the deepest parts of Africa.
“The free soul is rare, but you know it when you see it – basically because you feel good, very good, when you are near or with them.” – Charles Bukowski
My worst fear is to restrain her in anyway, that is quite possibly the worst thing you can do with a free soul. Caging a free spirit only ever ends in disaster. My one hope for her in life is that she manages to maintain her free spirit and doesn’t get sucked into the madness of life and what society deems as acceptable behaviour but most of all I just hope she is happy. I just want her to remember…
‘You were wild once. Don’t let them tame you’ – Isadora Duncan